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#1 His Sick Mentality, Not Her Short Clothes

Voice Against Rape Quote 1


“Decent girls do not wear short clothes.”
These were the words his mother said to him when he was just a kid. Not only once, not just twice but every time she came across a girl wearing shorts, skirts, sleeveless dresses etcetera. No matter if she was an actress in a movie, a model in a magazine or a real life college going girl. The words kept repeating as he grew up.

When he was all set to face the real world, he had one thing in his mind, “Decent girls do not wear short clothes.” No matter where he went, he always had this strange feeling against those girls. He never looked upon them with respect and occasionally passed lewd comments as well. For him, they were nothing but a disgrace to Indian morals and society.


Is the character of a girl based on the length of her clothes? If yes, then you need to get yourself checked mentally and if no, then why do the society we live in teach us that? Why is there a sacred line for just girls, crossing which they are titled with lewd remarks?

Even today, I hear so many people accusing the rape victims or the girls who according to those people might be a victim herself in future. The reasons are simple – ‘Why was she roaming in skirts?’, ‘These girls don’t know how to dress’, ‘It was her fault. Her dressing must have provoked the rapist.’, ‘If you are wearing modern outfits, you are provoking guys to rape you’ and there is literally no end.

I rarely find a finger pointing towards the rapist to challenge his sick mentality or towards the society who is cultivating such thoughts in generation to generation. Instead of understanding her mental state and feeling her pain, we often start accusing herself. How is that justified?

I have one simple question. Why does we guys are allowed to wear anything or even flaunt our naked bodies? Can’t the girls be sexually aroused to see the nakedness in the very same manner guys claim to be? Does that mean they have a right to rape any such guy?

We need a change in the society. We need a change in our thoughts. We need to keep our children out of such beliefs. We need to teach them how to respect a woman seeking her character not her clothes. If we keep on repeating the line 'Decent girls do not wear short clothes' forever, how will we ever see a change in mentality? 
Rape is provoked by his Sick Mentality not her Short Clothes.


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Soumya
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February 11, 2014 at 1:20 PM delete

Hats off to you for writing this. Respect!

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Anita
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February 11, 2014 at 5:15 PM delete

Very valid points here, Anmol.
Agree with Soumya. Respect!
I love the way you focus on social causes. We need more such expression in our Society so as to ensure change...

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Anmol Rawat
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February 12, 2014 at 12:10 AM delete

Thank you so much :)
Thank you for supporting. Respect!

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Anmol Rawat
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February 12, 2014 at 12:12 AM delete

Thank you so much :)
If even the present generation starts understanding things in the appropriate manner, the change won't be too far.

Thanks for supporting. Respect!

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February 12, 2014 at 3:07 PM delete

A wonderful post Anmol. Your tagline is eye catching and it was the first thing that drew me towards your post. Keep up the good work :)

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vishalbheeroo
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February 13, 2014 at 11:46 PM delete

Many parents give their sons a wrong education by quickly labelling a women as a slut or bad girl. I pity those parents who are dead against children asking questions. A lot of things based on our attitudes nurtured prejudices and lead to crimes.

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Anmol Rawat
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February 14, 2014 at 2:28 AM delete

Great to hear from you again :) Thank you so much.

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Anmol Rawat
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February 14, 2014 at 2:29 AM delete

Right said buddy :) We can be the change !

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Shruti Modi
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February 17, 2014 at 4:48 PM delete

Anmol: great point made here buddy. I too had similar fights at my house making my grand mom and to some extent dad understand that having restrictions on girls for her clothes is not gonna change anything. what needs to be changed is the mentality and more over what to teach a kid when they are growing up and how you act in front of them. If u dis-respect a woman in front of a kid or pass comments in front of a kid. the kid will learn d same.

So better change ones mentality.

Respect!

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Anmol Rawat
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February 25, 2014 at 4:31 AM delete

Totally Agreed :)
Thank you

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Pranil
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April 19, 2014 at 3:49 PM delete

Anmol Sir! Thank you so much for being here; a person of my thoughts with the same liking of living. Can I have yoour number please? I would love to have a conversation with you & also a meet if possible! My number is 9821611003 / 9821711003. Thank you! God bless...

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