I first read the term Pre-Marital Sex in my physical education book. Since this was the only question that had appeared in all the previous examinations, I read and researched thoroughly. I remember filling pages for a simple question - why pre-marital sex should be abolished?
We all know the reasons - unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases were the prominent ones among them. But that was back in school days when most of us did not have any knowledge about it. The text was written to warn us about the dangers and complications of things and it did that perfectly.
As an adult, you know what’s good for you and what’s bad for you. The only decision taker of your life is you. A guy or a girl getting involved in sexual relation knows everything about the protection measures. So is it right to get involved physically with a person before tying knots?
I can talk about ideologies and morals but nobody gives a shit about them anymore. So why not talk with a clear approach?
Looking around myself, I find people who are soaked with lust and that involves both the genders. People are running into the relationships as early as in the school days. They don’t know anything about a relationship but the media, the peer pressure, the changing hormones force them to find a partner of opposite sex and tag them as their boyfriend or girlfriend. Majority of them take their relation further into the realm of physical intimacies from where, there is no looking back. Now, the intimacy levels might differ; but no matter at what level, it is enough to spark the lust. For many people who indulge in pre-marital sex, it all begins right from there. That is then carried over to college life. The ones already involved in sexual activities desire for more and the ones who could not succeed desire for their first time. That is what actually happens for most of the people.
Some people find love in their college lives or even in their working life. At this point of time, the person of interest is well educated. He/she has seen life at large and now everything that is done by that person and every decision taken will always be right. Pre-marital sex is perfectly fine for them if they think so and is not if they don’t think so.
Physical intimacy is a part of every relation. Some stop within the limits and some explore beyond that. But who sets those limits? Is it the society we live in and the people or is there any solid theory behind that?
In earlier times, people used to marry in their teenage which was not much later than their puberty. The change of hormones and the buildup of desires was met with the opposite sex after their marriage. In today’s era, one needs to stand on his/her own feet before tying knots. This has become essential and people have started marrying in their late twenties or even early thirties. But they already attained puberty years ago. Their bodies have gone through the changes. The body screams for physical intimacies. Some may suppress, some may not. This is where exactly the pre-marital sex comes in.
Up till now, I have just talked about how yearning for sex before marriage is normal for any human - boy or girl. Let’s move on to the consequences.
Our society sees women as the symbol of purity. Any woman having sex outside the marital bounds is considered to be low self-esteemed. Feminine integrity is supposed to lie in a thin layer of tissue.
The society is bull crap and you certainly don’t need to prove anything to the people. But, do your parents agree for it? Will they support you if a guy rejects you saying you’re not pure? Think of those things.
Personally I don’t think that it should matter but yet it does, to so many people. Who is the sufferer? Girls! What happens to the guys? Nothing! They marry some other girl and construct a happy life. Do their wives care about their past? No!
Coming to my opinion about things, I neither support Pre-Marital sex nor abolish it. Who am I to have any say in anybody’s life? This is the reason why I put up all the points that you have read above. If I’m heads over heels in love with someone and that person shares a similar affection towards me, I don’t think pre-marital sex would lead to any problem for either of us. On the inside, I have already accepted her as my life partner and so has she. Sex or no sex, we will be together and then eventually end up marrying each other.
However if one of us is doing it just for fun, the other one will definitely be hurt. If it’s the girl who gets hurt, she can even face other difficulties. I know she should not. But that’s how our society is. We have a bunch of hypocrite people who say something but act different. It has happened with my friends and no one stands in support of the girls. This is the reason I am mentioning it.
Concluding to my post, I will just say that weigh the things unbiasedly. Be prepared for the worst. There is no problem in indulging in pre-marital sex. We are humans and we can’t run away from the cravings. But also remember that so many relationships break before meeting a happy end. Are you prepared for that?
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