I was in love. Madly in love with this guy whom I had just met through matchmaking. No, not the ones you do on the internet, but through some family friend. He seemed a lot like my dream prince I had always wanted to be with. The silly romantic novels can really do that to you. We met and I fell in love in the first meet itself. We dated for about 3 months before we agreed to tie the knots together. Our families were happy. In fact, they were just waiting for our approvals.
When I thought my life was going to be beautiful, it turned out to be the opposite. They had demanded a costly car in dowry. Being a middle class family, my parents were unable to buy one for them. I tried to persuade the guy. I had always thought he had loved me. However, he turned his back to me as well. I felt humiliated. All the promises we had made with each other were left shattered. I was broken. It felt like my love for him did not matter at all. I spent days crying at my fate.
I am an educated girl, and had just begun my career back then. Purchasing that car was not feasible for us back then. Today, I drive in the same car. I’m well settled and happy that the materialistic relation could not materialize. It took me about a year to get over him, but I feel glad I did.
When I thought my life was going to be beautiful, it turned out to be the opposite. They had demanded a costly car in dowry. Being a middle class family, my parents were unable to buy one for them. I tried to persuade the guy. I had always thought he had loved me. However, he turned his back to me as well. I felt humiliated. All the promises we had made with each other were left shattered. I was broken. It felt like my love for him did not matter at all. I spent days crying at my fate.
I am an educated girl, and had just begun my career back then. Purchasing that car was not feasible for us back then. Today, I drive in the same car. I’m well settled and happy that the materialistic relation could not materialize. It took me about a year to get over him, but I feel glad I did.
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Write commentsThat must happen a lot with arranged marriages in India. I watched a movie called Water about the widows in India. Very good movie. I think it was banned, however inside the country. I think Humiliation does aptly describe that situation. It's funny but dowry is paid to women in the Gulf by women pay it to men in India. I wonder how the dowry came into being...thank you for this post, Amnol.
ReplyAmy
you took a wise step, now she won't regret ever
ReplyWhy didn't she go to the police? She was saved. She should be happy and not humiliated.
ReplyYou brought an amazing story.. Considering the way things work out in our society, it does gets difficult for the girls to mouth their words.. Though she didn't go to the police, but then the bright part is she didn't succumb to that relation as well..
ReplyCheers
I have always wondered if arranged marriages always go through as planned ... or not!
ReplyI wonder that too. It simply does not make sense to me. Isn't love and respect enough to be exchanged mutually while tying knots (marrying)?
ReplyYeah :)
ReplyBecause may be she did not find enough guts back then, or she was not aware, or she thought it might not be fruitful, or she still loved him enough to not go against him?
ReplyShe's happy now :)
Yes. She's happy and successful and will find a far better person in her life now. Isn't that what matters? :)
ReplySometimes they do, sometimes they don't :)
ReplyVery well written Anmol! Glad she turned away from him... :)
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She left her daughter, filed case for dowry, courts didn't help. Had to pay up. The child has now grown up without her mother, Can't really blame anyone. Our systems are such. Pain!!!
ReplyPowerfully written. Commend you for sharing your emotions this way.
ReplyThank you Amrita :)
ReplyA bit busy these days. No time to participate in activities :/
That's horrible to even think of but yes, a possibility with high probability.
ReplyThank you :) BTW it's a fiction.
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